True Love

"Love in its ceaseless, endless changing makes life worthwhile."
- Aristotle

True Love is the opposite of what the human mind thinks it is, because true love is not of the mind. We are looking for love in all of the wrong places, in the past and the future, in emotional attachment, comfort and acceptance, in people or things. True Love is not something to be gained or lost, not something that will come as a result of finding someone or something, not something that will be lost as a result of letting go of someone or something. True Love is a love affair with life itself. Life is always in the Present, giving itself to you unconditionally. Life in the Present is all that is, everything real, completely fulfilling in and of itself, waiting for you to let it in. True Love is boundless and limitless, undying, and always new. True Love = Life, all that you sense in the Present. To love truly is to be Present.

There is really only one choice; to be with love/life, or to be with the mind. To be or not to be. This love in the Present can be shared and reflected between beings, or it can be blocked out by the mind and wasted. True love is to be shared, not gained or lost.

Love builds on love. As Kahlil Gibran says in The Prophet: (From Love) "Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love." (From Marriage) "Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each others cup but drink not from one cup." True love is being in love with love itself, not with another person or thing.

As The Beatles said: "In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make." The more life that you let in through your senses, the more love you have to reflect to others. It is that simple. You have to lay your burden down, lay your mind down, and just surrender to life. The more love you take in, the love more you make, or more accurately, reflect to other beings. You cannot "make" or create True Love, because True Love is not of the mind. You can only be a mirror of love, a mirror of life in the Present, which is your true-self. You cannot reflect love to others unless you open up to life in the present. When you are fulfilled with life, you can't help but reflect it back out to others.

You don't have to give life to your mind, because you are not your mind. You are a mirror of life. Your mind blocks, filters, and interprets life, which prevents you from experiencing life truly and completely. You must be a mirror of life, a surrendered receiver of life. Life in the Present is always new. To experience life fully, to experience True Love, you must let life in and reflect it back out without holding on to anything, without mental intrusions. You must leave no room for the mind to receive the new life that is always coming to you. "Being absent from the body (mind) is being present with the Lord (Life)."

Relationships between men and women, parents and children are the foundation of our society. Over 50% of marriages end in a a divorce these days. Most of the marriages and relationships that last are because of a false sense of security, such as financial security, or attachment, such as emotional dependence or a pleasurable sex life. Of course, some relationships last because of love for the children, and the carnal attraction between man and woman. Carnal love is love for just a part of life, such as love for a women, love for your children, etc. Very few relationships, if any, are founded on truth and love. It is staggering to see the divorce statistics. We must fix our relationships, or we will never be able to live as One and build a heaven on Earth. This starts with realizing what true love is. The foundation for a successful relationship is the truth and the life.

You may have noticed that I speak in generalizations from time to time. Do not let it bother you. It is when we get caught up in the endless details of life that we miss the mark, the truth in the present. We have to look at the big picture, and so sensible generalization is absolutely essential.

Let us look at man/woman relationships:

Men don't realize the true reason they are so attracted to women. It is because women are love/life personified; they are mysterious and beautiful, unpredictable and emotional. "There's something in the way she moves," as the Beatles said. Women balance men out, because they do not feel the need to hide their love away like men do. This is why women often show more emotion than men. Men have been conditioned to hide their love away and control their emotions, or else they will be labeled "soft" and "gay" by other minds. Women bring men into the present with their emotion and presence, while spiritual men set women free from their mind by being stable, not perpetuating the woman's emotions with aggressiveness and stubbornness.

Women give men life at birth, and they give men life after birth with just a smile, a laugh, an eruption of excitement. Women are naturally more in touch with their bodies and life in the Present, so they have an easier time reflecting it right back out. Women give men love that takes them out of their mind and in the present, and spiritual men give women truth which allows women to give love unconditionally. When both the man and the woman live in the truth and the life, they set each other free from the mind, and balance each other out. The unity of Truth and Love is the foundation of a fulfilling relationship, because both the man and the women can be completely present with each other, sharing the love in the present, without their minds blocking it out. The mind complicates relationships, and brings attachment, fear, lust, control, paranoia, and many other negative emotions into a relationship.

Women tend to "blow in the wind" more easily, because women are love, and their natural state is to flow with life. Women give love, and they want to be loved. The problem is, women don't know that they are life personified. When women realize the truth and get in touch with their natural state, they will be free to give love unconditionally, but only to a man who knows the truth. Women really need to be loved, not deceived, not lusted, not obsessed over, not even understood, just loved.

Men naturally live more in the mind. Because of this, men are mostly responsible for creating the world we live in today. Also, men are responsible for creating the minds of women. Women are deceived by men, fooled by the mind. Men built the world we live in today to please women and shape their minds to suit the desires of men. Men have embedded social roles into the minds of women, and this has distracted women from their natural state of giving love unconditionally. Women have been conditioned to believe that their purpose is to please their mate, sexually and mentally, by constantly worrying about their physical appearance and agreeing with whatever the man says. This in turn just strengthens the ego of the man. It is a vicious cycle. Men are under complete control of the mind, and are using it to deceive women instead of giving them truth and reflecting the love right back.

Some excerpts from "Making Love - Sexual Love The Divine Way" by Barry Long:

"Woman must be loved. The future of the human race depends on woman being loved, because only when woman is truly loved can man be truly himself and regain his lost authority. Only then can peace return to earth. Yet woman as she is now cannot be loved for long (or for good) by man as he is now. Together they are trapped in a vicious cycle, and if left to their own ideas of love, there is no way out for them.

By teaching her to please him and satisfy him down through the ages, man has taught woman to desire him, to project herself sexually, to make herself attractive to him. He addicted her to an emotional and physical craving for his sexual attention, and he did this by neglecting to love her."

All relationship problems arise because those involved in the relationship do not know what true love is. Men and women simply do not know how to share the love that radiates from all directions in the present, and this is because men and women are blocking out the love in the present with their minds. As of now, relationships are founded on attachment, which perpetuates the fear of losing the other, losing love. Relationships need to be founded on truth, so that we can give our children truth and love instead of fear and deception. Always remember, love is not gained or lost; love is the opposite of what the mind thinks it is. Love is to be shared in the Present. If we do not base our relationships on a foundation of truth and love, we will continue to mislead our children into deception and fantasy.

Jesus said, "Raise your children in Love and Truth. Cover them with Love and show them the Way of Life through your godly example, so that they will not have cause to depart from it."

BE with LIFE, not the MIND. Let LIFE leave no room for the MIND.
Radiate DIVINE, UNDYING, LIMITLESS LOVE, always in the Present.

Men, seek and spread the truth to transform your mind so that you may receive and reflect the True Love in the Present. Stop using the mind to deceive, to lie. Tell the truth. Do not chase women who will only satisfy your mind and your sexual fantasies. Wait for a woman who truly satisfies your soul beyond physical beauty and mind games.

Women, wake up. Stop giving your attention to fools and phonies who will never be able to truly satisfy your soul. Give your attention to True Love, to life in the Present. Wait for a man who devotes his life to the truth, a spiritual man, one who reflects the love you radiate like a mirror. You will find all the romance and love you could have ever dreamed in your wildest dreams, but it will not be a fantasy, it will be real. Give your love to a man who truly satisfies your soul, your spirit, not a man who satisfies only your mind and your carnal desires.

True love is being in love with life itself.

"Pure Love is a flood which covers all things. Nothing can stand against it, for it flows from the Eternal Sea."

"Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be."